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    3月8日

    38 is the new 15.

    Rereading my last post I was initially dismayed to think I have slipped into the age where physical aliments become conversational gambits.  As a young man, l am now ashamed to say I was scornful when hearing my elders discussing their various health problems.  When you are young, biology is embarassing, other people's complaints are annoying and there are infinately many more interesting things to talk about.
     
    I now realize that conversation topics function to strengthen the social connections of the conversers.  What is beyond the pale in some communities is de rigeur in others.  Swapping health problem stories is merely another way of searching for bonds of commonality (or fostering competition through one-upsmanship) upon which further connection can be built.  When I was 15 the analogue was music.  What bands do you like or not like was the first question out of my mouth when meeting a new kid at school, family event or out in the world.  How we answered helped identify our identities to strangers but also was the language of building a connection and establishing status heirarchy.
     
    The crux of human conversation is a search for commonality.  I have a vivid memory from years back of watching two strangers on a plane fumble about with with topic gambits until one mentioned their favorite Seinfeld episode.  Immediately their seatmate brightened and the rest of their trip passed with a very animated conversation recounting characters in their shared Seinfeld universe. 
     
    Incidentally my back is better but I am happy to have recognized a whole new world of connection possibilities now that I too can participate in my elders' common language.  I just need to remember the music stuff too so I can stay in touch with my 12-year old as well.
     
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    Nice hiccup on the server - I did NOT press the submit button 9 times.  Know anyone on the Spaces team that can fix it ;-P
    9 月 29 日
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    Jeni 发表:
    Nice hiccup on the server - I did NOT press the submit button 9 times.  Know anyone on the Spaces team that can fix it ;-P
    9 月 29 日
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    Jeni 发表:
    Nice hiccup on the server - I did NOT press the submit button 9 times.  Know anyone on the Spaces team that can fix it ;-P
    9 月 29 日
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    Jeni 发表:
    Too true.  I still have the Police Synchronicity record you and Felix gave me for my 16th birthday.  New Wave, Rock, Heavy Metal, Punk... the type of music you listen to when you are 15 can bond you with friends or alienate you from various social groups.  I still remember my first concert.  You, Felix, Michelle and I took to the bus downtown (skipping school early I might add) to see the Stray Cats and INXS at the Arena.  When you are young, I beleive the music you listen to becomes the soundtrack of your youth.  At 15 my life revolved around music, concerts, etc... now it's diapers, home improvement and trying to fight the aging process.  Knocking on the door to 40 is no picnic, but your post reminded me that no matter what age we are, social connections are important and keeping in touch with old friends is a must.  I'm sorry I lost track of you and Felix over the years.  Glad to see you are happy and doing well.  Best Wishes.
    9 月 29 日
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    Jeni 发表:
    Too true.  I still have the Police Synchronicity record you and Felix gave me for my 16th birthday.  New Wave, Rock, Heavy Metal, Punk... the type of music you listen to when you are 15 can bond you with friends or alienate you from various social groups.  I still remember my first concert.  You, Felix, Michelle and I took to the bus downtown (skipping school early I might add) to see the Stray Cats and INXS at the Arena.  When you are young, I beleive the music you listen to becomes the soundtrack of your youth.  At 15 my life revolved around music, concerts, etc... now it's diapers, home improvement and trying to fight the aging process.  Knocking on the door to 40 is no picnic, but your post reminded me that no matter what age we are, social connections are important and keeping in touch with old friends is a must.  I'm sorry I lost track of you and Felix over the years.  Glad to see you are happy and doing well.  Best Wishes.
    9 月 29 日
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    Jeni 发表:
    Too true.  I still have the Police Synchronicity record you and Felix gave me for my 16th birthday.  New Wave, Rock, Heavy Metal, Punk... the type of music you listen to when you are 15 can bond you with friends or alienate you from various social groups.  I still remember my first concert.  You, Felix, Michelle and I took to the bus downtown (skipping school early I might add) to see the Stray Cats and INXS at the Arena.  When you are young, I beleive the music you listen to becomes the soundtrack of your youth.  At 15 my life revolved around music, concerts, etc... now it's diapers, home improvement and trying to fight the aging process.  Knocking on the door to 40 is no picnic, but your post reminded me that no matter what age we are, social connections are important and keeping in touch with old friends is a must.  I'm sorry I lost track of you and Felix over the years.  Glad to see you are happy and doing well.  Best Wishes.
    9 月 29 日
    匿名 的图片
    Jeni 发表:
    Too true.  I still have the Police Synchronicity record you and Felix gave me for my 16th birthday.  New Wave, Rock, Heavy Metal, Punk... the type of music you listen to when you are 15 can bond you with friends or alienate you from various social groups.  I still remember my first concert.  You, Felix, Michelle and I took to the bus downtown (skipping school early I might add) to see the Stray Cats and INXS at the Arena.  When you are young, I beleive the music you listen to becomes the soundtrack of your youth.  At 15 my life revolved around music, concerts, etc... now it's diapers, home improvement and trying to fight the aging process.  Knocking on the door to 40 is no picnic, but your post reminded me that no matter what age we are, social connections are important and keeping in touch with old friends is a must.  I'm sorry I lost track of you and Felix over the years.  Glad to see you are happy and doing well.  Best Wishes.
    9 月 29 日
    匿名 的图片
    Jeni 发表:
    Too true.  I still have the Police Synchronicity record you and Felix gave me for my 16th birthday.  New Wave, Rock, Heavy Metal, Punk... the type of music you listen to when you are 15 can bond you with friends or alienate you from various social groups.  I still remember my first concert.  You, Felix, Michelle and I took to the bus downtown (skipping school early I might add) to see the Stray Cats and INXS at the Arena.  When you are young, I beleive the music you listen to becomes the soundtrack of your youth.  At 15 my life revolved around music, concerts, etc... now it's diapers, home improvement and trying to fight the aging process.  Knocking on the door to 40 is no picnic, but your post reminded me that no matter what age we are, social connections are important and keeping in touch with old friends is a must.  I'm sorry I lost track of you and Felix over the years.  Glad to see you are happy and doing well.  Best Wishes.
    9 月 29 日
    匿名 的图片
    Jeni 发表:
    Too true.  I still have the Police Synchronicity record you and Felix gave me for my 16th birthday.  New Wave, Rock, Heavy Metal, Punk... the type of music you listen to when you are 15 can bond you with friends or alienate you from various social groups.  I still remember my first concert.  You, Felix, Michelle and I took to the bus downtown (skipping school early I might add) to see the Stray Cats and INXS at the Arena.  When you are young, I beleive the music you listen to becomes the soundtrack of your youth.  At 15 my life revolved around music, concerts, etc... now it's diapers, home improvement and trying to fight the aging process.  Knocking on the door to 40 is no picnic, but your post reminded me that no matter what age we are, social connections are important and keeping in touch with old friends is a must.  I'm sorry I lost track of you and Felix over the years.  Glad to see you are happy and doing well.  Best Wishes.
    9 月 29 日
    匿名 的图片
    Jeni 发表:
    Too true.  I still have the Police Synchronicity record you and Felix gave me for my 16th birthday.  New Wave, Rock, Heavy Metal, Punk... the type of music you listen to when you are 15 can bond you with friends or alienate you from various social groups.  I still remember my first concert.  You, Felix, Michelle and I took to the bus downtown (skipping school early I might add) to see the Stray Cats and INXS at the Arena.  When you are young, I beleive the music you listen to becomes the soundtrack of your youth.  At 15 my life revolved around music, concerts, etc... now it's diapers, home improvement and trying to fight the aging process.  Knocking on the door to 40 is no picnic, but your post reminded me that no matter what age we are, social connections are important and keeping in touch with old friends is a must.  I'm sorry I lost track of you and Felix over the years.  Glad to see you are happy and doing well.  Best Wishes.
    9 月 29 日
    匿名 的图片
    Jeni 发表:
    Too true.  I still have the Police Synchronicity record you and Felix gave me for my 16th birthday.  New Wave, Rock, Heavy Metal, Punk... the type of music you listen to when you are 15 can bond you with friends or alienate you from various social groups.  I still remember my first concert.  You, Felix, Michelle and I took to the bus downtown (skipping school early I might add) to see the Stray Cats and INXS at the Arena.  When you are young, I beleive the music you listen to becomes the soundtrack of your youth.  At 15 my life revolved around music, concerts, etc... now it's diapers, home improvement and trying to fight the aging process.  Knocking on the door to 40 is no picnic, but your post reminded me that no matter what age we are, social connections are important and keeping in touch with old friends is a must.  I'm sorry I lost track of you and Felix over the years.  Glad to see you are happy and doing well.  Best Wishes.
    9 月 29 日
    匿名 的图片
    Jeni 发表:
    Too true.  I still have the Police Synchronicity record you and Felix gave me for my 16th birthday.  New Wave, Rock, Heavy Metal, Punk... the type of music you listen to when you are 15 can bond you with friends or alienate you from various social groups.  I still remember my first concert.  You, Felix, Michelle and I took to the bus downtown (skipping school early I might add) to see the Stray Cats and INXS at the Arena.  When you are young, I beleive the music you listen to becomes the soundtrack of your youth.  At 15 my life revolved around music, concerts, etc... now it's diapers, home improvement and trying to fight the aging process.  Knocking on the door to 40 is no picnic, but your post reminded me that no matter what age we are, social connections are important and keeping in touch with old friends is a must.  I'm sorry I lost track of you and Felix over the years.  Glad to see you are happy and doing well.  Best Wishes.
    9 月 29 日

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